SPECIAL POST: nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award

Outside of daily CloudThoughts, and weekly Monday Motivation, I don’t post much else however this calls for a SPECIAL POST:

deydreaming.com was nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award!

It was a total honor, and it (also) brightened my being. Lol. That was for you Just-Bacon 😉 —thank you dearly for the nomination, your impact on my being goes beyond words🙏

Being nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award means that I must answer the 11 questions posed by Just-Bacon, then list 11 questions of my own, and nominate 11 other bloggers to pay it forward. 

  • The Rules for Sunshine Blogger
  • • Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to him/her.
  • • Answer the 11 questions provided by the blogger who nominated you.
  • • Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.
  • • Notify the nominees by commenting on one of their blog posts.
  • • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo on your Post
  • Just-Bacons 11 Questions for deydreaming

    1. Who is your favorite comedian? Awe man, tough question, there’s a lot of good comedians out there, let’s see…Ellen Degeneres, Louis CK, John Atkinson

    2. Are you a righty or a lefty? Is there such things as a bothy…? I try not to give one hand too much attention over the other—they both mean a lot to me.

    3. Can you pat your head and rub your belly? No, not really. I tried this earlier and have been working on it since grade-school—it’s a skill that confuses me.

    4. The ground starts to shake: what’s your first thought? Oh shit, let the adventure begin!!

    5. If you have a pet, what are some of the weirdest things you’ve ever said to it? If you don’t have a pet, what are some of the weirdest things you’ve said to yourself? Ha, thank goodness that I have a pet for this question! I talk to OMtheKitty all the time and weird is just our standard language, ie: “good kitty going potty in the toilet” or “mama go potty on the toilet then it’s kitty’s turn”

    6. What’s your favorite part of your morning routine? (Other than hitting snooze and going right back to sleep.) Other than dreaming the most vivid and lucid dreams?! Steaming some tea and saying my gratitudes—while reading my own website: deydreaming.com and remembering to seize the day as much as I possibly can.

    7. Have you ever started your own business? (And do you have any tips for new startups?) Yes; follow your own roadmap, enjoy your own grass (be grateful for how green and luscious it is or how yellow and crusty…either way), always tend to your own garden, and do what you love to do—know thyself, stay true to thyself. Remember it’s a mountain, enjoy the climb and enjoy the view otherwise what’s the point in conquering it…savor the little bites (enjoy the BACON!!). 🥓🤤

    8. If you had a baby koala, what would you name it? I read Kala baby, so Kala…? Or Smuffie. Or, Surya Namaskar sounds good too.

    9. If you had to choose, chicken or beef? Beef; less killing, more grilling. Plus they kill all baby male chicks—so, chicken schmiken!

    10. Which would you be most comfortable doing in front of an audience on a stage: singing “I’m Gonna Be” by the Proclaimers or dancing the Cotton-Eye Joe to Lady Gaga’s “Bad Romance”? Sorry, no idea what “cotton-eye joe” is and not search engining it either—I already know I wouldn’t care which I did as long as I, and everyone else, was having fun.

    11. If you had to choose: Coke or Pepsi? No choice, just Coke. Or Sierra Mist. Or better yet, water!

    My Nominees for the Sunshine Blogger Award:

    1. 7daysPresent
    2. Wrong Hands
    3. Deydreaming
    4. the #1 itinerary
    5. Angela Prendergast
    6. Deborah Brasket
    7. 8th Wonder Entertainment
    8. Breath Math
    9. Living what you love
    10. Unbreakable Queen and last but not least…
    11. Cristian Mihai
    My Questions for My Nominees—if they choose to participate (no pressure!).
    1. What were you looking at the moment that you discovered this Sunshine Blogger Award nomination?
    2. Chipotle or Burger King?
    3. Have you ever meditated?
    4. Do you have a glass ceiling?
    5. If you could fix one thing about the world what would it be?
    6. If you could fix one thing about yourself, how would you do it?
    7. Do you practice daily gratitude?
    8. Ice cream or popcorn?
    9. Are your dreams vivid, what’s the last dream you remember?
    10. What is something you should thank yourself for?
    11. Who is your number one best friend?
    Thank you for reading (or participating), this has been a lot of fun! I hope you enjoyed this SPECIAL POST, for the Sunshine Blogger Award —all the best for the weekend!

    pep talk

    Dearest,

    …what are you doing?
    hiding. feeling bad at every corner. getting frighten at every turn…
    you don’t need to do that.
    in fact, you GOTTA let that shit roll off your shoulders.
    step up. come on
    there’s NO point in bearing any dead weight.
    you know it
    move away from it.
    Simply. redirect your thoughts.
    it IS possible to think up better things,
    things that nourish your mind
    things that liven your spirits
    things that energize your heart
    things that allow you to blossom.

    GET CREATIVE

    It’s time to purify your mind.

    the toxicness, the pollution stops here.

    the time to be kind and gentle with yourSelf is now

    because you matter.
    because you have the conditions to thrive.

    be REAL with yourSelf.

    Give value to your existence,
    —everyday.

    You’re not just another rock, tick or branch.

    YOURE INCREDIBLE!!! 

    you’re beyond complex
    you dream, you create
    you don’t just exist.

    Please know,
    I am eternally grateful to be yours.
    I love you for everything you are,
    and am forever your ally.

    always,
    Soul

    Ps. (remember) lead with your heart 🙂

    the Woman’s Rights movement IS still happening Ladies â€”thoughts?

    I love watching TED-talks. This one just became my newest fav.

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    It was filmed over three years ago, in June 2013, yet I only just discovered it and it inspired me to write this.

    Plus, lately, a big topic of conversation among my friends, family and clients has been women in power. Perhaps the recent presidential election brought light upon the issue and opened up a way for dialogue to happen, or it’s just something that I’ve been struggling with and keep coming back to so I’m talking about it.

    I’ve come to find out that there is still lots of ambiguity around being a high achieving boss babe, and even more so around being a successful lady while having a successful family. 

    The world is still very much a “man’s” world…

    Though women are now expected to also be able to provide bread for the household, the expectations around the kitchen, laundry, cleaning and caregiving really haven’t changed.

    The housework and the caregiving is still mainly a woman’s job…

    Is it any different in your life?

    Thankfully, I was fortunate enough to have wonderful role models showing me just how beneficial it is for children to have both parents participate equally in the role of caregivers.

    No, it wasn’t my parents. They aren’t the role models. My mother was a stay-at-home wife and my father a very traditional breadwinner. The awesome people I’m referring to are the wonderful parents of two lovely children that I used to babysit.

    Years later though I no longer babysit they are still dear friends, and I get to see them every few months. I get to hangout with them and I’m able to see just how well-adjusted these two children have grown up to be.

    Their parents were both involved in caring for them throughout their early childhood years. They both put in equal time and effort. I got to witness just how beneficial that is for children.

    It all has to do with equal parenting.

     

    Now, that’s what I want for my family. And, that’s what the norm should be for everybody. The roles of caregiver, household manager, all the responsibilities should be equally shared —but are they…?

    Looking back I can’t think of many more examples of equal dual parenting —other then that one wonderful family that I used to babysit for… okay, that’s looking back: parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, coaches, parents of friends, other babysitting clients. Nope, nothing.

    What about now? Many of my friends have started families… well, the females work and take care of the home and kids. The guys just work. Maybe the guys also hangout with their kids but it’s actually more like “play-time”, and when the kids are sick it’s most certainly always the mom’s job to take care of them.

    Alright, so perhaps my friends just didn’t pick the right partner —but we’re Millennials!  It should be common practice for us to practice teamwork  —aren’t we the generation that’s open-minded, progressive, and unbound by the rules of the past…

    The fact is that many of us are still bound by the rules of the past. Though we are open-minded and seemingly progressive we tend to look to our parents and grandparents to show us how to run our relationship with our partner, our family dynamics, and our household.

     

    Should we be doing that?

    Sometimes yes, sometimes no. And because things are so ambiguous now we really must make an effort not rely on automatic responses for things, we must analyze everything, and question why we do anything. And, we must continue this dialogue.

    Thoughts?

     

    Dear Fear.


    i’m so afraid.

    I hear you Fear.

    You keep talking. You keep telling me I’m not good enough. You make me bite my nails, pick at them, and you  won’t let them grow. You upset my stomach. You throw my breathing off. You make my heart beat faster. 

    You make me anxious Fear.

    Why do you care so much about what people think?

    What about what I think Fear… don’t you care that you paralyze me with terror. You keep me from manifesting my dreams. Why Fear? Don’t you like me?

    Doesn’t it hurt you to hurt me?

    I mean, aren’t we suppose to be on the same team… If you hurt, I hurt. If I hurt… how does that make you feel?

    Do you like hurting me?

    What do you get out of hurting me Fear? Is it so important to prove yourself right. Why do you feel the need to always be right…?

    People are judging you…

    Let them judge Fear! Why do you keep trying to hide?

    Why are you putting more importance in other people than me. I house you, I listen to you… i feed you.

    Why do I feed you Fear!

    …you’re not good enough.

    Is that really what you think. Based on what? Who are you comparing me to…

    Why do you have such a perception of me… why do I let you win.

    …I thought you were a source of motivation, but actually you can get downright crippling.

    It’s my fault, really. I listen to you, I pay to much attention to you —and, boy do I pay…

    You haven’t proven to make my life any better with all your “advice” Fear, and all of your criticism isn’t very constructive.

    What is it you actually want Fear.

    Come on, let’s talk.

    I’m willing to work with you. To hear what you have to say and come up with options, together.

    I actually do know… you’re only trying to look out for me, while you also fight to preserve yourself.

    Well, thanks Fear. And, please, know that I’m not trying to get rid of you.

    Don’t you know that I need you fear. 

    It’s true. I need you to put a little fire in me; from time to time I need some motivation. It just burns too much when you overdo-it.

    So maybe you can turn it down a notch?

    Do you think we can work things out, what kind of life do you want to live?

    I need you to work with me Fear. I’m really tired of the way you’ve been handling things so far. I think we both know that you can approach things waaaaay better…

    You have a purpose Fear, you are needed, but the way you keep coming at me is no longer welcomed.

    Please think things over and revise your approach.